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What We’re Missing About Broken Relationships
It goes beyond the “F” word.
Forgiveness isn’t enough.
When someone has wronged you (or you’ve wronged someone), depending on the depth of the pain, there can be a sense of nothing ever being enough to cover the hole, fill the void, make things even.
“An eye for an eye” is the old wisdom. You wrong me, I take an equal pain from you. “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind” later teaching would caution. What is justice? Do people ever get what they deserve? Should we?
To make the call for “Justice!” in the streets or in a backroom deal is to admit that we live in a world of injustice most of the time. The thief gets away; what was heinous and criminal on a videotape, falls flat with competing evidence and “reasonable doubt” in a court of law.
When the case is closed and real-life must begin again, how do we do the hard and human work of repair? How does one go through life without a trail of broken relationships and remain whole?
Reconciliation is How
When the judgment has been made and the ruling released, the hurt may be done, but the repair is not finished. That’s when the real work begins.
